Healing from Slavery, War, and Genocide:
Lessons from John Woolman and Friends in Rwanda and
Burundi
By David Zarembka
Presented at the 59th John Woolman
Memorial Lecture
October 22, 2006
John Woolman is my favorite Friend. My second favorite
Friend is Levi Coffin. My worse favorite Friend is my daughter,
Joy. Let me explain. When Joy was about 12 years old, she
would come home with her “First best friend, her second best friend,
etc.” and each day the “First Best Friend” would change. This
constant rotation of friends annoyed and intrigued me so one day I
asked her where I fit in this hierarchy of best friends. She
replied, “You are my worst best friend.” Although as the parent
of a 12 year old I was at the bottom I was pleased to have made the
list.
These three favorite Friends have something in common. They
all opposed slavery. Joy is director of the Break the Chains
Campaign of the Institute for Policy Studies which rescues people from
conditions of servitude and slavery—in Washington, DC no less. In his
book Disposable People: New Slavery in the Global Economy, Quaker Kevin
Bales of Free the Slaves reports that there are twenty-seven million
people in slave-like conditions in the world today—more than ever
before in recorded history! Hence John Woolmans’s and Levi Coffin’s
work to end enslavement is still with us.
Another trait they share is that they have written books. Levi
Coffin’s Reminiscences of Levi Coffin: The Reputed President of the
Underground Railroad does not have the literary qualify of John
Woolman’s Journal, but he surely lived an action packed life as he and
his wife, Catherine, helped 3300 slaves on their way to freedom.
Joy’s book about Black/White families in England, Kenya, Zimbabwe, and
Jamaica is called The Pigment of Your Imagination: “Mixed Race” in a
Global Society. As a biased reader, I will not comment on its literary
merit, but I will say that I have read it about ten times. At this
point I can probably quote large passages of her book, but that is
another lecture.
Instead I want to start out with one of my favorite quotes from
John Woolman: [Pause] “It‘s good for thee to dwell deep, that
thou mayest feel and understand the spirits of people.” I like
the “dwell deep.” This is why the African Great Lakes Initiative
of the Friends Peace Teams--AGLI as we call it--sends people to Africa
for five week workcamps. The purpose is to get to know people and
their condition. Note that Woolman does not talk about language,
exotic customs, and other external characteristics, but rather “feel
and understand the spirits of people.”
In that vein, Joy has a nice passage on this issue in her book.
She was visiting Kenya, where her mother is from:
I decided to head off to the McMillan Memorial Library to begin my
research on race relations in Kenya and found that most of the relevant
books were written during the colonial period. Books on race
frequently came in the form of outdated how-to manuals on handling
servants and poorly written travelogues by Europeans about the quaint
customs of “primitive people.” Few books mentioned
interracial offspring and those that did, predictably did so in a
negative manner. One book published in 1916 professed that
“contact between the races at an increasing number of points
would lead not only to miscegenation, which between persons widely
differing in origin produces a weak progeny, but also to the
degeneration in the white community.” After several
frustrating hours of reading repeated references to Africans as
“backward savages” and “animals,” I felt an
overwhelming need to leave the oppressive library for a breath of fresh
air. I began thinking about the traits attributed to animals: the
exotic, dangerous “other” to be observed from afar.
Were the Kenyan photo models at the tourist hot spots seen, even now,
as part of this animalistic stereotype? I figured the best way to
calm down was to go outside and join the Kenyans sitting on the front
steps of the library, enjoying their lunch. The melodic sounds
coming from the mosque next door helped soothe my irritation and I took
in the sights around me.
Within the first 15 minutes, five safari vans of sun-kissed
tourists came down the avenue in front of the library. Each
spacious van was equipped with an open-hatch sunroof that allowed the
occupants to stand up while peering at the
“exhibits.” I had not realized that the safari began
in the city of Nairobi. The first van caught my eye because a man
inside was capturing every magical moment with his video
camcorder. People inside the vans were snapping photographs of
market stalls, legless beggars, the mosque, and any other item of
interest which could be described as uniquely Kenyan. I watched
the video camera lens as it swept across those of us sitting on the
library steps. Was I the observer or the observed? Was I a
spectator of the “exhibit”? Or part of the
“exhibit”?
Let us say that these tourists were not “dwelling deep.”
In 1763 during the French and Indian War John Woolman visited the
Delaware, or Lenni Lenape, Indians. How did he view his visit?
Love was the first motion, and then a concern arose to spend some
time with the Indians, that I might feel and understand their life and
the spirit they live in, if haply I might receive some instruction from
them, or they be in any degree helped forward by my following the
leadings of Truth amongst them.
Because of his more long-term involvement with slavery, Woolman’s
journey to visit the Indians is frequently overlooked, but it was a
most important peacemaking activity. Remember that fighting between the
Indians and whites was ongoing. Many influential Quakers advised
Woolman not to go—including a late night meeting the day before he was
to set out. The journey took three weeks, was two hundred miles each
way during rainy weather over trails, and was solely to be present with
those afflicted by the war.
In 1998 I was the Baltimore Yearly Meeting representative to the
Friends Peace Teams and we were discussing the latest crisis in the
Balkans. I said something like, “Why are we always taking about
the Balkans. Some of the worst wars in the world are happening in
Africa and moreover they involve substantial Quaker communities and we
never think about them?” Mary Lord then spoke up and said, “What
do you want to do about that?”
I proposed that Friends Peace Teams send a delegation to visit
Friends and others in Kenya, Uganda, Rwanda, and Burundi for the
following purposes:
1. To find out how the various wars and genocide were
affecting the Friends
2. To find out what peacemaking activities they were doing
3. To see if there were ways to partner with the African Quakers
in their peacemaking work.
After I received approval, I wrote to all the African Yearly
Meetings plus any other peacemaker that I could find. Many immediate
resplies came back We sent a delegation of seven people. I
went to Rwanda and Burundi. In Burundi I had an experience which
mirrors Woolman’s visit to the Indians.
There is a saying in Kirundi (the language of Burundi) “A real
friend comes in a time of need.” I visited Musama Friends
Church. It was up-country perhaps five miles off the main road on
a very rugged, gutted dirt road. We went to visit this church because
the youth of the church—meaning those under 35 years of age—had
identified 97 vulnerable families in the community—the elderly, the
blind, women without husbands. They rebuilt their houses when they were
destroyed in the fighting. We stopped at the house of a blind man
whose home had been rebuilt by the group four times. This was all done
without outside support belying the common belief here in America that
things only happen in Africa when funds are pumped in by us from the
wealthy countries. They showed me their church and the clinic
which was no more than a few poles and some plastic sheeting and spoke
of their hopes for a better future.
But the important point was that they were so pleased that someone
from the outside had come to visit them! They felt that someone
recognized and remembered them. This gave them hope. I myself never did
so little—all I did was look around, ask a few questions, shake hands
with lots of people, and show some interest in their existence and
well-being. The lesson here is that when there are conflicts in
the world, we must be real Friends (capital “F”) and visit in the time
of need.
The second lesson is that we ought not to let danger deter us.
Woolman’s journey to the Indians was considered dangerous—as least
by his fellow Quakers in the Philadelphia area. The late night meeting
was to inform Woolman of recent massacres in the area he was going to
visit. Lest you think this is ancient history, a similar event occurred
in the summer of 2005. AGLI introduced the Alternatives to Violence
Project (AVP) in Bukavu, eastern Congo. There has been a war going on
since 1996 which has killed about 4,000,000 people—more than any other
war since the Second World War. Mary Kay Jou, from here in New Jersey,
was one of the AVP facilitators and wote about the practice workshop
they were doing with the newly trained Congolese facilitators:
On the morning of the day that we were scheduled to leave for the
basic apprentice workshop in Bunyakiri, we received word that there had
been a massacre there recently and six people were dead and many
wounded. After much research and a visit to the local hospital
where the wounded were brought, we found out that the massacre had
taken place a week before and was in a village 12 kilometers away from
Bunyakiri. The facilitation team using a consensus process,
decided to travel to Kunyakiri as planned.
When the team arrived we were warmly welcomed by a group of people
who were happy to see us. [Similar to the lesson I learned
above—being present is at times gift enough.] The church choir
and the children’s choir sang songs for us, and everyone prayed for a
successful workshop…
We should not put our concern for our own safety ahead of our
concern for the afflicted.
Does anyone know who Theoneste Bagasora is? I have never yet
had an American give the correct response to this question. He
was the “mastermind” of the Rwandan genocide, presently on
trial at the International War Crimes Tribunal for Rwanda in Arusha,
Tanzania. He was the leader of a group called “Hutu
Power” who thought that the majority Hutu should rule Rwanda and
that all Tutsi should be eliminated. Their theory was even more
diabolical than that used in Nazi Germany during the Holocaust. Their
idea was to force every Hutu to participate in the genocide of the
Tutsi so that there would be a Hutu solidarity of silence and impunity.
If everyone was guilty, then no one could be tried for any murders
committed during the slaughter. In one hundred days about 850,000
Tutsi and moderate Hutu were killed,--organized from the top down by
Bagasora and others in a most effective manner. This was about
75% of the Tutsi in the country at the time. The attempted power grab
failed and the Hutu leaders, rather than ruling over an ethnically
“pure” Rwanda, are now on trial in Arusha. Many of
the worst perpetrators of the genocide have fled to the Congo, thereby
creating a lot of conflict and killings there, while over 120,000
accused of participating in the genocide have spent more than ten years
in jail with no chance of even an unfair trial.
Theoneste Bagasora’s theory of genocide may have failed in Rwanda,
but it succeeded here in the United States where we are heirs to a
policy of silence and impunity. The Lenni Lanape Indians who John
Woolman went to visit no longer exist—in 1867 its remaining remnants
joined the Cherokee Nation and now live in Oklahoma.
Their demise was not pretty. Here is one quote from the War
of 1812 when they had been pushed into Ohio. An American militia from
Washington, PA attacked a group of Lenni Lanape Indians who had
converted to the pacifist Moravian Church.
On the pretext of leading the Indians to safety, they [the
American militia] gathered together the residents of Salem and
Gnadenhutten in the latter village. When the Indians were
assembled, they were formally accused of being accessories to murder,
and were sentenced to death. March 8 was set as the day of
execution, and while the Indians sang hymns taught them by their
pastors, prayed, pleaded for their lives, and protested their
innocence, they were beaten to death with mallets and hatchets, and
scalped. According to Moravian records, 56 adult Indians were
killed (29 men, 27 women) and 34 children of various ages…{The militia}
burned the buildings at Gnadenhutten to the ground, including the
structures in which they heaped up the copses of the victims. The
also burned to ashes the neighboring villages of Schonbrunn and Salem
and then loaded their horses with the spoils of the raid, which they
divided and took home with them. [Pages 316 -317, The Delaware Indians:
A History, by C A Weslager].
It strikes me that we Quakers ought to visit the remnants of the
Lenii Lanape Indians first to ask them how they are doing and second to
apologize for our failure in helping them to survive. As Woolman says,
“[ have for] many years felt love in my heart toward the natives of
this land who dwell far back in the wilderness, whose ancestors were
the owners and possessors of the land where we dwell, and who for a
very small consideration assigned their inheritance to us.”
We need to stop denying our extremely violent past and present—to
the Indians, to those who were in slavery, and to others. Let me give
you a current example.
Over ten years ago when we were trying to ban handguns, there was
a demonstration at the Capitol in DC. Twenty thousand plus pairs
of shoes were displayed state by state representing the people killed
the previous year by handguns. This was the year after a Japanese high
school foreign exchange student had been killed by a handgun while
trick or treating with friends on Holloween night. His parents had come
for the demonstration and so the shoes of those killed by handguns in
Japan the previous year were also displayed. There were fifteen
pairs of shoes.
The third lesson is that we must address the roots of this
violence in the US. It is my conviction that our societal and domestic
violence is closely tied to US international war-making violence.
I now want to turn to the conflicts in Africa.
Let me begin by giving you a one paragraph history lesson. During
the genocide in Rwanda, the hate radio station told people to throw the
bodies of the Tutsi into the river so that they would go back to
Ethiopia. As a result where the Kagera River enters Lake Victoria, the
Tanzanians pulled out over 20,000 bodies. They were afraid that the
dead bodies would poison the whole lake. Everyone in Rwanda and Burundi
speaks the same language, has the same culture, lives next to each
other, and sometimes intermarry. The Belgian colonial rulers needed a
divide and conquer strategy so they codified the existing groups—Tutsi
were supposed to be tall, thin cattle herders who came from Ethiopia
while the Hutu were the shorter, stocky farmers. Why is there this
connection to Ethiopia? According to early twentieth century race
theory—remember Joy’s comments on her research in the library in
Kenya--, the Ethiopians were the southern most branch of the white
race. Consequently if the Tutsi we
re from Ethiopia, they would be the ruling class over the
Hutu. The Belgians gave the Tutsi all the benefits—education, jobs,
government positions, and required them to rule over their Hutu
neighbors. The Hutu were into forced labor gangs, controlled by the
Tutsi with whips. This is how the many roads in these mountainous
countries were built. A few generations of this type of overt
discrimination and favoritism made these two groups bitter antagonists.
How were the Quakers in Burundi affected the conflict which began
in 1993? How were the Rwanda Quakers affected by the 1994
Genocide and its aftermath? As I give you some quick biographies of
Friends in Burundi and Rwanda, do not dwell too much on their
ethnicity, but look at them all as human beings.
Because his story illustrates the ambiguities of the Tutsi-Hutu
divide, I’ll start with Adrien Niyongabo. He was born in
Bujumbura and at age seven his father left his mother and went
up-country. His mother was a Tutsi so Adrien grew up thinking he
was a Tutsi. As a teenager—like teenagers everywhere--he decided to
seek his roots. He went up-country and found his father. Lo and behold,
his father was a Hutu. No one can be mixed—one takes the ethnicity of
the father. So Adrien became a Hutu. Here is his story in his own words:
In October 1993, the death of the first Hutu elected president
gave rise to a new round of massacres between Hutu and Tutsi. The night
of the 23rd, the governmental military attacked my suburb. The Hutu
were forced to leave the area to hide themselves. As many others did, I
followed the queue toward the hills surrounding Bujumbura.
Unfortunately, after just one mile, I was stopped by two men with guns;
stopped and forbidden to follow the others. Before I could even ask
why, they added that I was a Tusti--the stereotype because I was tall
and thin. They said I was following the Hutu who fled so that I
could investigate how things were settled and maybe go back to tell the
governmental Tutsi army. “So, we are going to kill you,” they said. I
kept quiet, waiting, expecting to see God in few seconds.
In a short time, a man came up to where we were and asked them
what I was doing there. They answered him the same way they had told me
before. And the man said, “Please, I know who is his Father, who is his
Mum. He is a Hutu as we are. Let him join the others.” One of the two
men asked him: “Do you know him really?” The man responded by saying,
“Yes, yes!!!” Turning to me, the two men with guns said, “You are
saved, guy. You can keep on following others!” Could I believe it? The
dark night looked to me like a new morning. My life was given back to
me again. Praise the Lord!
Adrien’s brother-in-law, Charles Berahino, also a Hutu, was
attacked with machetes in Bujumbura at the same time by a group of
Tutsi youth. As they were about to kill him, Charles, like a good
evangelical Quaker, loudly said his final prayer to God. One of the
attackers then one attacker said, “He’s a Christian. Let him go.”
David Niyonzima, the former General Secretary of Burundi Yearly
Meeting, was the head of a small Quaker theological school in
up-country Kwibuka mission station.
In revenge for the killing of Tutsi in the area, the Tutsi army
came and attacked the theological school, killing eight of the eleven
students, two ironically enough were Tutsi. David was there and had a
key to the garage behind the school and opened the door and hid in the
well. A soldier came to the window and he could hear his superior
asking if anyone was in the garage. David told me his heart was
pounding loudly. The soldier replied, “No one is in there.” David
hid there the rest of the day and during the night fled to his parents’
house.
David is a Hutu, and his wife, Felicite Ntakaruka, is a Tutsi.
They were afraid that Hutu would kill her in retaliation so the next
two weeks, David’s family hid Felicite.
Felicite’s sister was a secondary school student at that time.
When the soldiers came to her school, they told the Tutsi to go on one
side and the Hutu on the other. Felicite’s sister and one other
student stayed in the middle, declining to join one group or the other.
She was killed by the soldiers.
Remember that while we know the stories of those who were saved by
miracles, we know few stories of those where a miracle did not happen.
Let us now turn to Rwanda.
Cecile Nyiramana is a Tutsi and during the genocide she hid under
a bed for a hundred days. She was pregnant. She was hidden by friends
of her husband who is a Hutu. In 1998 he was accused of participating
in the genocide and has been in jail ever since. Cecile is founder of a
group called, Women in Dialogue, which brings together Tutsi survivors
of the genocide with Hutu women whose husbands are in jail accused of
being perpetrators of the genocide. She is from both groups! Cecile
will be one of the evening plenary speakers at the Friends General
Conference Gathering next summer.
Sizeli Marcelin, a Tutsi, is the Coordinator of the Friends Peace
House in Kigali. At the beginning of the genocide his whole family was
killed. He was hidden in the rafters of Kucikiro’s Friends Church for a
few days until the Hutu hiding him told him he had better leave. Sizeli
spent a night traveling the short distance to the Amahoro Stadium which
was being (sort-of) protected by the UN. He was so angry that he
decided he would join the Tutsi army to get revenge, but then he heard
a Christian group singing a song which had the sentence, “Only God can
seek revenge.” Sizeli immediately remembered that God is a God of Peace
and decided to seek reconciliation which is what he has been doing at
the Friends Peace House.
Sizeli told me this story in 1999 giving me the exact dates when
he learned that one son and one daughter had survived the genocide. The
son is named Patrick Mwenedata. Here is part of his story. Patrick was
13 at the time of the genocide. When his family was killed, he became
the head of a “family” of seven children. As he was running near the
Church, he was holding the hand of his three year old cousin. He heard
a grenade. explode. In order to run faster, he picked up his cousin.
“Blood was flowing everywhere. I put him on the ground, covered him
with a few leaves and ran on.” His little cousin had already died in
his arms.
Later an interahamwe, the militia responsible for much of the
killing during the genocide, caught him by the coat. He slipped out of
his coat and ran into the forest. As they were running, another person
who had been hiding in the forest began to run and the interahamwe ran
after the other person. In other words, Patrick is alive because
someone else probably is dead. In these days of anti-Muslim rhetoric in
the US, it is important to note that Patrick was hidden by Muslims in a
mosque for part of the time of the genocide.
Solange Maniraguha was also 13 at the time of the genocide. On the
first day of the genocide the interahamwe broke through the roof of her
house and killed her parents. Then one of them said to Solange, “Get
out, get out!” which she did. So the person who killed her parents
saved her life. Some Hutu neighbors hid her for two days. Two hundred
and fifty thousand Tutsi survived the genocide and most of them were
saved by one or many Hutu. Life is much more complex than “good” versus
“evil.”
These, my friends, are the Quakers of Rwanda and Burundi. Today
all are extensively involved with peacemaking, reconciliation, and
community healing. What lessons can we learn from the work these
Quakers do?
AGLI partners with Burundi Yearly Meeting and the Friends Peace
House in Rwanda on a program we are developing called “Healing and
Rebuilding Our Communities”—HROC, pronounced “He-Rock” In these
workshops, ten Hutu and ten Tutsi are brought together for three days
in order to understand their trauma, grief, anger, and to rebuild
trust. After one of these workshops in Mutaho, Burundi, Agnes
Ndyishimiye, a Tutsi from Mutaho, Burundi, whose husband was killed
during the violence, attended one of these workshops. In this region of
Africa, people are often afraid of being poisoned. Giving a person food
and accepting it is therefore a sign of forgiveness and reconciliation.
The Hutu administrator held responsible for the killing of the Tutsi,
including Agnes’s husband, was now 25 miles away in the Gitega prison.
At the end of the HROC workshop she said:
I am happy that I leave this workshop with a new dream that there
will be a special day. That day, I see myself going to the Gitega
prison where our former administrator is kept. I will ask to see him. I
will be bringing him food. I will hug him. He will not, maybe,
recognize me. I will tell him that I come from Mutaho Internally
Displaced Persons camp. I will show him that love has replaced hatred.
I will be happy that day.
During the follow-up day a month or so later, a group from the
workshops decided that they would visit the prisoners. It took some
time and much negotiation for this to happen, but it did. Here is a
picture of the group that visited the prison. Adrien Niyongabo
interviewed many of the people present and Aime-Claude, the drive who
took the group from Mutaho to Gitega said,
Understand that you are called to do good to the one who did wrong
to you. In that way, instead of pushing the person away from you, which
will put all of you into isolation, you bring the person back to you,
which will put all of you into communion. May all Burundians follow
this excellent example.
Wouldn’t it be nice if all Americans followed “this excellent
example?” We push two million Americans away each year by putting them
in prison, we push the ”terrorists” away by trying to kill them, we
isolate anyone whom we label as “bad” or “evil,” we push away those who
are homeless, addicted, or mentally ill. We push away those who are on
the other side of social, moral, or political issues. What would happen
if “love replaced hatred?” Our lesson is that we need to work to
restore that of God in those who have done bad things.
Although the HROC program deals with community healing from
trauma, we find many testimonies such as this one:
I would have been the big loser if death had taken me away before
having attended this HROC workshop. I had seen how happy are those who
came from these workshops you are organizing and I wondered what they
were given. I was overloaded with my bad feelings and this workshop has
been an opportunity for me to put down some of them. More, I had been
quarreling with my wife and many times I used violence over her. Thank
God that I have learned how I can manage my anger. I am ready to change
and bring peace in my family.
One could say that this is what he was expected to say and that he
is still “using violence” over his wife. Here is a testimony from the
wife of another man:
After the workshop that I attended, I wished that my husband would
get this extraordinary chance too. Fortunately, God answered my
prayers! He participated in the last one you conducted. My home has
become a paradise! Before we attended these workshops, my husband was
always furious. He was treating us as slaves. My home was a hell. Since
he had participated in the HROC workshop, he has now time for the
children and me. When he comes from work, he greets us, tells us how
things have been for him and asks us how we have been doing too (what
he never did before). Now he consults me before making any decision.
You understand that there is reason for me to be this joyful woman.
There are so many testimonies like this. I think we have gotten
things backwards when we say that peace must start in the family, then
the community, the nation, and the world. Family violence is the result
of societal trauma as people take out their anger and frustrations on
those closest to them. There is too much domestic violence in the
United States which we attribute to personal problems We need to
look at the conditions in our society which make it so violent and then
begin to address the roots of this violence. Is not one of these roots
our greed of obtaining the American Dream at the expense of others both
in America and the rest of the world? Woolman outlines clearly in “The
Plea for the Poor” and elsewhere that if everyone lived modestly there
would be enough for everyone. I think this is still true. Should we not
focus on the “World Dream” where everyone would have clean
water/sanitation, health care, food, shelter, and education?
The fifth lesson is that we need to address the roots of violence
both here and elsewhere to reduce societal and domestic violence.
Laura Shipler Chico has just finished a twenty month tour in
Rwanda with AGLI and she wrote in a report:
Is it the Quaker notion that there is that of God in each of us
that gives the Friends here [in Rwanda] such gall? Is it that
unwavering hope that even a man who has butchered and hated and thieved
can be redeemed? Or is it simply a thirst that comes out of raw hurt,
to find each other again? Whatever it is, Rwandan Evangelical Friends,
through Friends Peace House, are doing something that very few other
groups in Rwanda have tried. They are bringing killers and survivors
together. They are inviting them to sit down and look each other in the
eye.
To illustrate this, let’s hear part of a report of a recent
workshop by Theoneste Bizimana, the HROC coordinator in Rwanda. I
should explain that if a person grew up in Uganda, this means that they
are Tutsi refugees who returned after the genocide.
The workshop was very good even though at the beginning it was
difficult for the group to feel free and open, to trust each other. We
were with two social work students from Butare National University who
are doing their practicum in Friends Peace House. They wanted to
participate in our work in field. This was the first time for them to
attend a workshop like this one even though they had learned some
theory. Both of them grew up in Uganda and they didn’t see what
happened in Rwanda. They could not imagine how survivors and people who
killed their relatives can sit together again and share food. I
remember when we were sharing what we learned from the workshop, one
man from the jail said that he killed ten people and three were from
the family of one person who was there. Sarah one of those students
wanted to flee or to get out, she got fear! She told me she was
thinking that he can do that again.
Or as one of the released prisoners said after confessing and
being released:
I have accepted what I did in the genocide and I have been
released. Through this workshop I see that I caused trauma to many
people, especially those whose relatives I killed. I traumatized myself
because I had an animal heart. I had done that, but I repeat, I ask
pardon. Forgive me. I did bad to you, to all Rwandans, even to myself.
I believe since now we become brothers and sisters, we can all say
together, “NEVER AGAIN.”
Joy has a younger brother, Tommy. When she was little, she might
say, “Tommy is a bad boy. He hit me.” I would reply, “Tommy is not a
bad boy, but rather he did a bad thing.” Woolman’s approach to the
slaveholders was not to degrade or demonize them, but to speak with
them with respect, indicating that he believed their holding of slaves
was contrary to “Eternal Wisdom.” Recently a woman called me on the
phone who couldn’t remember who killed who in the genocide. She asked,
“Who are the bad guys and who are the good guys?” I responded
that life is much more complicated than that.
Do you remember Solange, the thirteen year old Tutsi girl whose
parents were killed by the interahamwe who then told her to “Get out”?
She is now one of the main HROC facilitators in Rwanda. After a Hutu
released prisoner attended one of the workshops, he asked to speak with
her. Here is how Laura Shipler Chico tells the story:
And he began to talk: During the genocide he and his wife
had done terrible things, he told her. They killed many people
so many they were not sure how many and when they were
killing they did so with zeal. Forty bodies were found buried around
their house. They had done terrible, terrible things.
This man had heard Solange’s testimony during the workshop.
He knew what she had been through, and he knew that she did trauma
healing work. He wanted to tell her his story. He wanted to
tell her what he was going through now. He wanted to start to
heal from all that he had done.
“It is something,” Solange said, “to be trusted. That is
something. Here in Rwanda, who can we trust?” Solange said
she was afraid, but she sat and she listened. She listened
deeply. She listened to all that this man had encountered since
he was released from prison his home had been destroyed, his land
gone to weed….
When I asked Solange for permission to tell this story, awed by
her capacity for compassion, her unwillingness to stay the victim, and
her ability to see a man like that as a complex human being who abuses
and suffers and saves like the rest of us, she said, “Yes. It’s
no problem. Please tell everyone you know. Because, to me,
this man it is not that I think what he did is OK--but now, this
man, to me, is a hero.”
Yes, this man did some very terrible things. But he is alive in
this world and he still has that of God still within him and can become
a caring person. Regardless of what bad things someone did in the past,
we must believe that they can be transformed and act upon those
beliefs. If Rwandans don’t do this, how will they ever heal their
country? Can we do this in America? Her lesson for us is that we must
be brave enough to bring enemies together face to face to talk and
reconcile.
The last testimony I wish to present is my favorite.
I am a Tutsi living in the Internally Displaced Person’s camp. I
was around ten when the war reached our area. I remember that day when
Hutu beat my young brother to death. My mum asked our Hutu neighbor to
escort her so that she could take my brother to the hospital.
Pitilessly, he told her “Don’t you know where you have buried your
husband? Take him there too!” Hopelessly, my mum and I went to the
hospital but my brother died in mum’s arms before we could reach the
hospital. We turned back and took the trail to the cemetery. Only two
of us, two females, buried my brother. After we were done, we went home
crying. Since that time, I considered the Hutu man as a monster as well
as his wife and children.
After the HROC workshop I attended, I used to sit and meditate.
One day, I decided to rebuild the destroyed relationship with that
family. Unfortunately, the man had died. Still, I went to his daughter,
who is almost my age, and told her my sad story. I openly told her that
this was the only reason that I hated them. She was very sorry to hear
what her father did to us. In tears, she humbly asked if I would be
eager to forgive her father though he had died, her family and her too!
I responded to her that that was my aim for coming and talking to her.
We are now friends, real friends. I have forgiven! Without HROC
workshop skills I am not sure if I would have come to that decision.
What I like about this testimony is that it seems so natural. Here
in the US, we heap our woes and misfortunes on a single, defining
individual—Osama bin Laden, for example.. We speak of that of God in
every person, but do we act upon it? This young woman—and John
Woolman--did. As Jesus says in the Sermon on the Mount, “Love
your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you,
and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.” The
last lesson is an old one as we need to stop judging people as “good”
or “bad.”
To end, let us review the lessons I have learned from these
various people:
1. Rather than run from those in
conflict, let us visit them.
2. Do not let danger deter us.
3. Let us confront the violence in
the United States so that we lessen the wars, conflicts, and economic
exploitation that the United States brings to other parts of the world.
4. Let love replace hatred. Let us
restore that of God in those who have done bad things.
5. Let us address the roots of
violence in order to reduce societal and domestic violence.
6. Let us bring enemies together to
“look each other in the eye.”
7. Let us stop judging people as
“good” or “bad” but answer to that of God in absolutely everyone.
And the unifying lesson:
8. Let us dwell deep that we may
feel and understand the spirits of people.
Twice each year I visit the AGLI sponsored HROC programs in Rwanda
and Burundi. People frequently ask me if it is depressing to
visit places with such recent violent histories. There is no doubt that
Rwanda, in particular, is not a happy place—people are tense, reserved,
cautious, and wary rather than open, welcoming, and happy as they are
in Kenya, for example. Yet I always come back, not dejected and sad,
but rejuvenated and optimistic. Each time I see how Adrien, Solange,
Theoneste, Sizeli, and so many, many others are working to heal the
gashing wounds in their society, to bring reconciliation and even
friendship to enemies, and to restore their society to a peaceful
whole. Frankly when I return to the United States and see this country
moving so, so swiftly in the opposite direction, that is when I feel
discouraged. My calling is to work with Friends in the Great Lakes
region of Africa. I have to leave it to others, like each of you who
have been so kind as to listen to me this afternoon, to bring healing
and reconciliation in this country.