."System,8r0(. -@Times-  2 P  -@Times-2  APPENDIX E:H=<CIH'HC! 2 8  7-X2 b3Plan of Ministry and Worship for Memorial Meetings*a<282"^8'!,2288c2,'88"2,^,R3,2^,,!82'2- 2  --V2 L2*(largely correct, but in process of being revised2!2,2,2,2-,-,!88!88,2,,''2"8,82,,2',8 2 Ld2 L+6/10)s222! 2 L 6@Times-O2 .F-Considerations in Planning a Memorial MeetingT;A-!A43;&!;@. AG ;AA A;;n4`;4 ;!n44'!@; 2 . >'- 2   -' 2  -'2 OSections I and II are to be discussed with the family; sections III and IV are 8,,22',22! ,!,23,2',2'',2H22,!,N0',,22'!! ,22 I,",'I2 )responsibilities of people from Mt. Toby.t!,'222'2,'2!2,22,!!2NY=230 2 d  .' 2 w -'-D2 &I. Care of dying person and/or family'H2,,2"82828,,'272882,"2R2- 2  -'R2 `/When there is an impending death, Ministry and _2,22,!,',2N2,23212-,2Y2'"0,22C2 ` %Worship needs to discern whether the y_2!'222,,2'22',,!3H2,2,!2,'2 Mdying person and/or family members wish to discuss the memorial meeting with e30312,!'22,222!",N0N,N2,!'H'222',2''2,N,N2!,N,,21H2'h2 I>someone from the meeting. Such a discussion might consist of:'2N,22,!!2N2,N-,2182,2,2(,2''22N22,22''2! 2 I  -'2 UO showing examples of the printed memorial program with explanation of possibi#'22H21,3,N2,'2!2,2!2,2N,N2!,2!32!,NH2,32,2,222!22''22 lities ,''&2 3(poetry, obituary)!22,#0222,#0! 2 3h .'2 UU sharing the possibility of some programmed elements in the meeting such as music, s#'2,!213,22''2/2!'2N,2!31!,NN,2,-N,2'22,N,,21'2-2,'N2',' 2 readings, etc.!,,231',, 2  .'A2 U$ inquiring about special requests #222!21,222'2-,,!,22,'' 2  .' 2   -'-G2 | (II. After the death: visit and planning''H"!,,!8,8,2!8!2'!288827882 2 |   5'-X2 3This visit to the family would include a member of a=2'2'22,!,N/I2222,22,,N,N2,!3!>2  "Ministry and Worship, a member of Y2'"0,22_2!'22,N,N2,!2!'|2 c KCare and Counsel, and someone else if appropriate. Discussion would cover:sC,!,,22C222',,22'3N,22,,',!,22!22!,-H',2''22H222,22-! 2 c  -'-2 U #-2  the service:!8,',,2-,!-z2 J Are there any particular wishes for readings, music, particular persons H",2,",,303,!,2-!H'2,'!2!!,,231'N2',2,!,2,!2,!'22''a2 M 9who have been asked to speak, etc.? Would the family likeH222,2,2-,2,'3,22'2,,2,,._2222,!,N/2,22 M  to sit together and have 2'22,2,!-222,2,'2 Qbenches set aside for this? Since the meeting room should be cleared 30 minutes i2,2,2,'',,'2,!2!2(-82,,2,N,,21!23N'22222,,,,",222N22,''z2 6 Jbefore the memorial meeting begins, the Champney Room and the nursery are 2,!2!,3,N,N2!,N,-212-12'2,C2,N22-0C22N,222,22!(,#0,!,'|2 Kavailable for rehearsals or family gathering. Ministry and Worship has cars,2,,2,!3!!,3,,!(,'2!!,N02,2,!31Y2'"0,22_2!'222,',,"2 T e of the c,2!2,'h2  >Memorial Meeting and will designate someone to open and close.Y,N2!,Y,,31,22I2,'12,,'2N,23,222,2,22,2', 2   .'-2 U #-(2 the printed programe!8,8,8!,88,22,3R-j2 ?: take samples of the program in two parchment colors and ask ,2,',N2,'2!2,3!32!,N2H22,!,2O,2,32!',22,'2'2 Qwhich the family would like. Do they have an estimate of how many programs will iH2,22,!,N0H2222,H22.02,2,,2,'N,,2!22HN,402!32",N'H'&2 }be needed? The co2,2,,3,2.=2,,2m2 }Apying is done at Collective Copies in Amherst and charged to the n3032'222,,C2,,2,C22,'2HN2,!',22,2-"1,222,'2 TMt. Toby account; cost is not mentioned to the family. Err on the side of printing Y=230-,,222,2''22N,222,222,!-N/>!!222,'2,3!2!221'2 gOtoo many. The text of the program is currently on the Hoffman computer with a 22N,30=2,,32!2,2!31!,N',3!!,20232,H2!!N,2,2N22,!H2,'-52 paper copy in the file marke2,2,!,24022,!,N-!2,2  d 2@Times-&2 WMemorial Services S-H2'22,',,,'-A2 ` $in the file cabinet in the Library. 22,!,,,22,22,=2!,#0'2 PRAsk Hoffmans to print out what is needed or follow the pattern and do it yourself.H'2H2!!N,2'22!232H2,'2,,2,22!!22H2,2,,!2,2222032!',! 2 Po .'-2 U #-2  refreshments,,",,'9R,8!'-w2 H: Mt. Toby offers beverages and cookies or crackers/ cheese. Will the Y=3302"!,!'3,2,"-1,',22-222,'2!,!-,2-!',2,,(,_2,'82 9Hospitality Committee be involH2'2,/C2NN,,3,222X2 93ved and take responsibility? If not, a core group a2,2,22,2,!,'232'2/.!22,,3!,2!222',2 needs to be assembled.2,,2'22,,'(,N2,2 2 < -'-2 #U #-2 # Guest book:M8,'!8228!-s2 #E Does the family wish to provide one or would they like Mt. Toby to hH2,'2-!,N0H'222!222,32,2!H2222.02,Y=2302'q2 Dprovide it? [Meeting should be sure to provide a permanent ink pen.]2!222,."Y,,21'22222,'2!,22!222,,3,!N,2,2222,2" 2 j .'-2 U #-42 child care during the memor,88,2,,88,82!8,S-R2,2 o ial service2'-,2,,-J2  *: Are there family members who will need I!,2,!,",N0N,N3,!'H32H2,,2'2 Xit? Should child care be provided for other attenders beyond the family? This is best .82212,22,,!,2,2!222,2!2!22-!,,23,!'2.02222,!,N/.=2''2,''>2 "done in the First Day School Room.222,22,7!'H.08,322C22N 2 J  ,'-2 jU #-(2 jtaping the service:e!2882!8,',,2,,!-b2 j: Does the family wish this? This tape would be only for I2,'2,!,N0H'22&.=2',2,H2222,220!2!2 jthe 2,'\2 6family; a copy of the tape is not kept by the Meeting.!,N0,,2402!2,,3,'222,2302,Z,,21 2   .'-2 SU #-#2 Smemorial displayS-R2,28'822-k2 S@: Would the family like to have a display of mementos, photos, ^2222,!,N02,22-2,,2'2.02!N,N,22(2222''2 etc?,,. 2 J ,'-2 =U #-42 =overnight hospitality needs22,,828!82'8!2!28,,8'-[2 =(5: What are the needs of the immediate family? Care ._2,,!,2,2,-2'2!2,NN,2,,!,N/.C,!,'22 must be taken not to overeN2'2,,2,222222,",_2 8xtend the Meeting, offering more than can be reasonably 3,222,Y,,212"!,"21N2!,2,2,,23,!--'22,20'-2 & provided.2!222,2 2 &$ .'-