Advices & Queries From Around Quakerdom
 

 

Philadelphia Yearly Meeting, Advices, 1972

Our Religious Society endures as a community of friends who take thought for outward society by first taking care of one another. Friends are advised to maintain love and unity, to avoid tale-bearing and detraction, and to settle differences promptly and in a manner free of resentment and all forms of inward violence. Live affectionately as friends, entering with sympathy into the joys and sorrows of one another's daily lives. Visit one another. Be alert to give help and ready to receive it. Bear the burdens of one another's failings; share the buoyancy of one another's strengths.

Remember that to everyone is given a share of responsibility for the meeting for worship, whether through silence or through the spoken word. Be diligent in attendance at meetings and in inward preparation for them. Be ready to speak under the leading of the Light. Receive the ministry of others in a tender spirit and avoid hurtful criticism. In meetings for business, and in all duties connected with them, see again the leadings of the Light, keeping from obstinancy and from harshness of tone or manner; admit the possibility of being in error. In all the affairs of the Meeting community, proceed in the peaceable spirits of Pure Wisdom, with forbearance and warm affection for each other.

Use your capabilities and your possessions not as ends in themselves but as God's gifts entrusted to you. Share them with others; use them with humility, courtesy, and affection. Guard against contentiousness and love of power; be alert to the personalities and the needs of others. Show loving consideration for all creatures, and cherish the beauty and wonder of God's creation. Attend to Pure Wisdom and be teachable.

 

Advices and Queries from Quaker Faith & Practice of the Yearly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends in Britain, 1994

Marriage has always been regarded by Friends as a religious commitment rather than a merely civil contract. Both partners should offer with God's help an intention to cherish one another for life. Remember that happiness depends on an understanding and steadfast love on both dies. In times of difficulty remind yourself of the value of prayer, or perserverance and of a sense of humour.

  • Children and young people need love and stability. Are we doing all we can to uphold and sustain parents and others who carry the responsibility for providing this care?

A long-term relationship brings tensions as well as fulfillment. If your relationship with your partner is under strain, seek help in understanding the other's point of view and in exploring your own feelings, which may be powerful and destructive. Consider the wishes and feelings of any children involved, and remember their enduring need for love and security. Seek God's guidance. If you undergo the distress of separation or divorce, try to maintain some compassionate communication so that arrangements can be made with the minimum of bitterness.

  • Do you recognise the needs and gifts of each member of your family and household, not forgetting your own?

Try to make your home a place of loving friendship and enjoyment, where all who live or visit may find the peace and refreshment of God's presence.

 

Queries on Personal Integrity and Right Action
(Adapted from Southeastern Yearly Meeting)

Do we keep to simplicity and moderation in speech, manner of living, and vocation?

Do we make time in our day for silence, solitude, spiritual reflection, and the growth of our inner life?

Do we remind ourselves each day of our connections with people, other creatures, and all that sustains life?

Are we ready to live in the Spirit that heals estrangements that may arise from resentment, nagging fears, and alientation from other?

Do we maintain integrity of speech and a single standard of truth?
Are we free from the use of judicial oaths?

Do we regard our possessions as given to us in trust?
Do we part with them freely for the needs of others?

Are we careful in our choices of work, recreation, and social activities so that we have time and energy for spiritual growth and service to others?

Do we stay tender and open to the leadings of the Spirit?

 

Advices on Love and Unity
Yearly Meeting of Friends in Philadelphia, 1808

Among the gospel precepts, we find not any thing more strongly and frequently recommended by our Lord Jesus Christ and his apostles to the primitive believers, than that they should love one another; and as we are sensible that nothing will more contribute to the peace and prosperity of the Church than a due regard to this advice, so we earnestly desire that it may be the care and concern of all Friends to dwell therein, and in the Unity of the Holy Spirit to maintain love, concord and peace, in and among all the Churches of Christ... Let everyone therefore watch over his own heart and often examine whether he therein finds love to God and to the brethren his motive to action on all occasions, but more especially when we meet together for Divine worship and the support of the Discipline.

Let s spirit of love and humility more and more diffuse itself among us, and influence the hearts of all; thus every one will be engaged to seek peace, and none be apt to take offence; but each in his own particular be more careful to rectify his own failings and imperfections that curious in observing, censuring, and aggravating those of others.

Dear Friends, seek peace and pursue it. Ye are called to love. Oh that the smallest germ of enmity might be eradicated from our enclosure! And verily there is a soil in which it cannot live, but naturally withers and dies. This soil is Christian humility - a state highly becoming and indispensable for a being who depends continually on the favors of his Lord; a state in which of all others he can most acceptably approach his presence; and a state which naturally conduct frail man to love and compassion for the companions of his frailty and poverty, yet his fellow-partakers of the offered riches of the gospel.

 

Advices on Conduct and Conversation
(From Christian Advices issued by the Yearly Meeting of Friends held in Philadelphia, published in 1859)

It is desired that Friends may be guarded in their conduct at all times and on all occasions that no stumbling-block be laid in the way of honest inquirers after truth, nor offence given to tender minds under convincement. ÒLet your light,Ó said Christ, Òso shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.Ó Our moderation and prudence, as well as truth and justice, should appear in trading and commerce, in speech and communication, in eating and drinking, in habit and furniture, and in all things; that, as we profess to be a spiritually-minded people, we may manifest by a meek and quiet spirit that we are bounded by the cross of Christ, and concerned to show forth the excellency of that Divine principle, by a conversation every way agreeable thereunto.Ñ1808

 

Advices on the Art of Living
(From Christian faith and practice in the experience of the Society of Friends, London Yearly Meeting, 1960)

Our life is love, and peace, and tenderness; and bearing one with another, and forgiving one another and not laying accusations one against another; but praying one for another, and helping one another up with a tender hand. Isaac Pennington, 1667

 

Environmental Responsibility
Iowa Yearly Meeting (Conservative), Faith and Practice

ADVICE

All of creation is divine and interdependent: air, water, soil, and all that lives and grows. Since human beings are part of this fragile and mysterious web, whenever we pollute or neglect the earth we pollute and neglect our own wellsprings. Developing a keen awareness of our role in the universe is essential if we are to live peacefully within creation.

The way we choose to live each day as we manufacture, package, purchase and recycle goods, use resources, dispose of water, design homes, plan families and travel‑affects the present and future of life on the planet. The thought and effort we give to replenishing what we receive from the earth, to keeping informed and promoting beneficial legislation on issues which affect the earth, to envisioning community with environmental conscience, are ways in which we contribute to the ongoing health of the planet we inhabit.

Preserving the quality of life on Earth calls forth all of our spiritual resources. Listening to and heeding the leadings of the Holy Spirit can help us develop qualities which enable us to become more sensitive to all life

QUERY

What are we doing about our disproportionate use of the world's resources?

Do we see unreasonable exploitation in our relationship with the rest of creation?

How can we nurture reverence and respect for life? How I can we become more fully aware of our interdependent relationship with the rest of creation?

To what extent are we aware of all life and the role we play? What can we do in our own lives and communities to address environmental concerns?